At spooned, No-Gos are your personal non-negotiables — clear boundaries that determine whether a relationship with someone is even imaginable for you. A classic example is the question of whether or not you want children. These No-Gos help us make sure you only meet people whose basic life frameworks align with yours. They define outer conditions, not personal growth topics. Because we’re convinced that there are certain aspects of life where compromise simply isn’t possible. spooned takes care of that first filtering step for you — so that at your Cluster Event, everyone you meet already shares one essential value with you.